First, what classifies as good sex? If you ask women that, you’re likely to get an answer that is quite different from how the majority of men will respond. And that’s the other thing, what a millennial will tell you will be entirely different from what their parents would say, and that’s not accounting for any regional or cultural factors.
Why Is Sex So Damn Important To Us
Also known as the Hollywood effect, with Bollywood catching up fast. Oh, and also porn. Everyone seems to be having the perfect sex with their perfect bodies every time – for ages upon ages – and we want to be like them.
There are pills to “improve” sexual organs, pastes to “enhance performance” and even “jadi booti” vitamins and “essential minerals” to make a person forget the stressful and tiring 12 hour day they’ve just had and jump into bed with their partners.
Longer sex is what people think they’re supposed to want, and deliver, without really having paused and thought about it. Call it fear of social stigma or call it social conditioning.
That’s Nice, But How Long Is Sex Supposed To Last Then?
Well, we’ve just told you that the average session lasts for 6 minutes – a statistic that seems to have not changed in the last 100 years (in American men, anyway), even if how long people want to last has gone up significantly, so we’ll say this.
If you’re looking for a quickie, anywhere from 5-7 minutes is good, and you know, quick. That’s for the entire act of minimal undressing, minimal eye contact and raw sexual energy.
10 minutes may not seem enough to enjoy a bit of foreplay as well as your favourite position, but it can be.
15 minutes lets you mix things up a bit by picking another position to finish and getting a good workout in the process.
20-25 minutes seems to be the ideal time, and will satisfy both the man and woman’s physical and mental criteria of what it means to have had “good sex,” and will allow for the option to switch things up a fair bit, as well as getting plenty of foreplay in.
At 30+ minutes you’ve made your point and you’ve probably made your partner sore, and bored. Make sure to check with them.